Resolving Conflicts with Family Members and Others

Dealing with Disagreements

It is normal to have different opinions. When you disagree with family, professionals, or others, take a moment to think if your decision is the best one. Their advice can be helpful, even if you don't agree in the end. Remember, as the guardian or conservator, you are responsible for the final decision.

When Someone Does not Respect Your Authority

If someone like a family member, doctor, or financial advisor keeps arguing with your decisions, be clear that the court has appointed you and you are legally in charge. If the problem continues, get legal advice or ask the court for help. Get help quickly if the situation is serious. See our page on Asking for Help with a Guardianship or Conservatorship or Finding Legal Help.

Disagreements About Healthcare

Sometimes, healthcare providers might be caught between your decisions and what the protected person's family wants. It can be hard when people disagree with you. Talking openly with family, doctors, and others involved is key. Focus on what the protected person needs, what they value, and what they would prefer.

Concerns About Money and Costs

People might worry about how much care costs or how you're managing the protected person's money. Remember, this money is for the protected person's benefit during their lifetime, not just to save for others later. Think about what the protected person can afford and what they would want, but your main job is to use the money for their care now.

Consider Mediation

Mediation can be a good way to work out disagreements. For more information, see our page on Mediation.

Disagreements with the Protected Person

Even if you have full authority, talk to the protected person if they can understand and share their wishes. Encourage them to be part of the decision-making. If what they want won't cause harm, try to do what they ask. Explain your decisions to them so they feel included and can trust you.

If You Still Cannot Agree

If you cannot resolve a disagreement about how you're managing things, you can ask the court to review your actions.See our page on Asking for Help with a Guardianship or Conservatorship.

Thinking About Stepping Down

If you think the protected person would be better off with someone else as their guardian or conservator, you can ask the judge if you can resign and if someone else can be appointed. See our page on Changing or Ending a Guardianship or Conservatorship.